This was post was originally part of a series in January 2012. I am re-posting it because it’s just good information!
I’m grateful for good friends. You know the kind that challenge you to be a better person, the ones who love you despite the fact they have seen you at your very worst. One such friend has the ability to lift me up with his words, make me laugh till I cry and on occasion want to punch him really hard.
In the past I would have hidden my uniqueness because I didn’t want anyone to think I was weird. Today, I relish in the fact that I’m quirky, different, unique, smart, funny, and not the average girl. People still think I’m weird but typically it is said in a good way. I like it. I say life would be boring if we weren’t so unique and different. Fly your freak flag of uniqueness. Which is why I love bouncing around to P!nk singing “Raise your glass if you are wrong in all the right ways…”. It is fair to say I’ve always known I don’t fit in the proverbial box. But, it was more than that – I could just feel it at my core – I’m different.
So this past summer I’m having another deep conversation with my good buddy, Tony Woodall. Tony is the kind of guy you like to be friends with because he will help you when you are in need, make you laugh at some unbelievable story, he holds some weird celebrity status in our little town (I think it is because you can’t miss his freakishly tall frame) and he can lay out the truth for you to hear in a way you understand it. Pretty much make you feel like you are getting punched in the gut because it is so truthful.
I believe I was whining a bit about how great my life was becoming as I was finally over my past junk but was unsatisfied that I didn’t have normalcy. Like a house, a car, a special someone, etc… I mean I’m a pretty solid catch but can’t snag a date to save my life. I want nice things like everyone else and I work my tail off so I just couldn’t figure out why there was some invisible road block preventing me from realizing the goods. Then my tall, wise friend says, “You have known your entire life you are not normal. So why do you want what normal people have? Sure those normal people all have great mulch over at their houses. It looks nice. Do you really care about how good their mulch is or do you want more? You are created for more than just good mulch, Kelchner!”
Freak Flag vs. Good Mulch
Wow. I sat in a stupor for about five minutes just letting that soak in. No, I am not normal and yet I’m striving really hard to be normal. Why am I downgrading myself? Why am I not pursuing my own destiny? Whew! If you stop and think, is that where you have been too? Are you pursuing someone else’s destiny because it seems shinier than what you hold in your hand today?
Folks, we were all created for unique purposes to fulfill. Which is why we are all equipped differently from our personalities to our intelligence to our experiences. Each intricate piece of us is used for our purpose which can only be fulfilled by us. Sure, I have no mulch today let alone good mulch. But, one day I will have so much more than that. I really already do….my life has never been more incredible than it is right now in this season. I see God show up every day and in very big ways.
To wrap up today, I just want to continue to encourage you to not settle for things in all aspects of your life. Stop looking at what others have and focus on what you have been given. Use your gifts to serve others and make a difference in this world. No matter how small your means are use your heart, spirit and time for they are more valuable than money and go further to reach people. Embrace your unique quirks, styles, personality and ways. Love who you are. The Creator of our universe loves you so much that He specifically designed you and craves to be in relationship with you…so why would you look down upon who you are? It doesn’t get any better than that. Don’t settle for good mulch!
You get one life so take this opportunity to be EXTRAORDINARY.
You have known your entire life you are not normal. So why do you want what normal people have? – Tweet This Now!